Self Worth


Yep, come to my site and I will answer all the world’s mysteries and answer your deepest, darkest concerns. Not quite, in fact, not even close. I would not want that job…too much pressure. Plus, I believe it is already taken.  This post is inspired by a training I just attended.

I have been an entrepreneur since the age of eight when I created my first company of hand-made stationary. I got my hands on a set of scented markers and came to the conclusion that people should have access to rainbow colored and scented folders, pencil covers, notebook covers, and sketch books (small ones). I diligently went to work creating my demo set and then off to school to pedal my fare. I was recently telling this story to someone when I was struck by how completely confident I was that the people I offered my wares too were not only going to buy my goods but become regular customers! My approach was simple. I would approach a teacher in her homeroom during recess, show her my work and then ask, “so what would you like and how many?” Not “are you interested,” ” does this appeal to you,” no,no, these questions were already answered in mind…The answers were, of course, I want them and let me figure out how many.

I did not become independently wealthy from my rainbow stationary stock. But, I did get my supplies covered for the demo set. Plus, a great lesson in learning your market. All of my businesses have been on the sidelines. Projects to keep me busy when day to day life was slow. When I moved to northern Idaho I shifted my entrepreneurial spirit from the sidelines to the frontline. This was both scary and exciting. I am happy to say things are moving forward quite nicely…more to come on that specifically in a later post.

What I found so interesting about the training this past weekend was a discussion about self-worth. It came in the form of reimbursement for services rendered in an, EAGALA , model session.  For those of you uncertain of what I’m talking about the gist of the conversation was this… How do I manage the frustration of documenting an experience without talking about horses or the experience? The answer was document the take home message, how it related to the client’s goals that were created in collaboration with the client and their therapist and then bill for the session.  Your work is important, valuable…it has worth.

The passion in the room came from the people doing this work everyday who struggle to pay their bills because it is still a fight to get other people to understand the value of the work. At times, a plaintive wail for compassion on how can I continue to do the work if I can’t afford to provide it. People were allowed to express their concerns and emotions and were tempered to a place of manageable concern. Answers were provided which gave them an opportunity to reflect and things to consider when they get back to their businesses. All of us were left to consider the conversation and our own worth.

I reflected on my own choices and this is what I recommend about self worth and reimbursement.

Identify what you find worthy, inventory your concerns and create your own idea of self worth.

Fight to get what you are worth.

Be willing to walk away if don’t get what you are worth.

Or be prepared to fight with a smile on your face because you are looking forward to the exercise.

It’s easy to fight for something when you believe in it.


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